In the Comfort of Family, Friends & Home
Follow me and my musings...
  • Home
  • Recipes
  • Photo Blog
  • Residual Thoughts
  • Contact Me

Q:  What do you call a young gay man in San Francisco?  A:  A tourist!

1/21/2014

0 Comments

 
Picture
A couple of weeks ago I wrote a brief “article” about how the ultra-gentrification of San Francisco had to be effecting the quality of gay life in San Francisco.  Today I Googled (please pardon my "techie English") upon a couple of articles that tie in with that same subject.  People are becoming aware, finally, that the extreme high cost of living in San Francisco or its environs is not only causing an exodus of gay people but also preventing gay people from moving here.

Yes, San Francisco still has somewhat of a draw as a “mecca” for gay people.  However, that image is changing rapidly each and every day.  How can you move here if you cannot afford to live here?  (Unless you were born with a trust fund.)  Yes, the City has a great support system for gay people.  It also remains a very tolerant city.

It still has a huge Gay Pride parade even though that has been corrupted by corporations that it has turned  vanilla to be point of being boring.  Does anyone remember the Gay Pride parades of the past...even during the height of the AIDS epidemic...hundreds of thousand of people attending, thousands upon thousands participating, bar floats full of handsome scantily clad men, the throbbing dancing beat from these floats causing everyone to move to the music???  It does not happen anymore.  Dykes on Bikes seem to be the only carry-over from the parades of the past.

The Folsom Street Fair is still a nation-wide event...yet the majority of participants are from somewhere else.

The Castro Street Fair seems to be slowly fading away.  Yes, it is still an event but it now draws less than half the people of the Folsom Street Fair.

Go-go boys?  When was the last time that anyone encountered go-go boys at a gay bar in San Francisco?  In the Castro?  

Hustler bars?  Ok, I am on thin ice with this...but regardless of whether it is "right" or "wrong"  this scene is now gone...the Polk Street's bar scene is dead and nothing but a memory as wealthy straights parade from establishment to establishment.   Remember when the gays in San Francisco were on the cutting edge of what was to be determined to be "right" or "wrong" and they plunged ahead with fun-filled glee?  It is hard to imagine from the perspective of today that it even existed.

 I have live here for over 30 years.  The other night…during one of these unusual warm January evenings…I decided to go out for a drink after work.  My observations…well I found them to be startling.  Let me try to do a comparison:

 1982:  The number of bars in SF were countless along with numerous restaurants, etc.  Any day, once the happy hour hit, the lines would form outside of the popular places…lines filled with the young.  The bars were packed only not quite as packed as on a weekend night.

2014:  What is left is a handful of tired average bars in the Castro filled with gray haired people.  There is nothing wrong with gray haired people…I am one of them.  Yet one has to ask "Where are the young people"?  They cannot afford to live here.  The evening I went out, I went to what were at one time three historically popular bars (two of them have changed names)…they were not crowded on a warm evening!  There was no cocktail hour crowd filled with handsome young men and women.  My last stop was at a bar with a few tables of people, a couple of people at the bar itself, and through the huge windows I could see another bar across the street filled with silver heads.  The only thing of interest to watch was an older lesbian couple hooking up...and this was in a "hot spot."

Back in the "day" there was a video bar on 18th street that was the penultimate place for 20 years old and 30 year old men to meet and greet and hook-up.  It still exists.  However, instead of lines of handsome young men waiting to get inside the bar, the average age is now 45 to 55 years old (but still handsome).  Once again, though, there are no young people.

One then has to wonder that when us older gays either die or lose our rent-controlled apartments and move away, who will replace us?

Will this joke become a reality:  "(Q) What do you call a young gay man in San Francisco?  (A) A tourist!"

~J. Lysdahl


0 Comments



Leave a Reply.

    Categories

    All
    All
    Chosen Family
    Chosen Family
    Christmas
    Chronicle Of Nutty & Whiskers
    CJ
    Easter
    Family
    Friends
    Gay
    Life Of The Retired
    Living Positively
    Memories
    Progressive Notes
    Sam And Jake
    Stories From Wylddane
    Thanksgiving Is A Daily Thing
    Transitions
    Winter
    Writings Of Gail Mahr

    Archives

    April 2025
    March 2025
    February 2025
    January 2025
    December 2024
    November 2024
    July 2024
    May 2024
    April 2024
    March 2024
    February 2024
    January 2024
    December 2023
    November 2023
    October 2023
    September 2023
    July 2023
    June 2023
    May 2023
    April 2023
    March 2023
    February 2023
    January 2023
    November 2022
    August 2022
    April 2022
    March 2022
    February 2022
    November 2021
    October 2021
    September 2021
    August 2021
    July 2021
    June 2021
    May 2021
    April 2021
    March 2021
    February 2021
    January 2021
    December 2020
    November 2020
    October 2020
    September 2020
    August 2020
    July 2020
    June 2020
    May 2020
    April 2020
    March 2020
    February 2020
    January 2020
    December 2019
    November 2019
    October 2019
    September 2019
    August 2019
    July 2019
    June 2019
    May 2019
    April 2019
    March 2019
    February 2019
    January 2019
    December 2018
    November 2018
    October 2018
    September 2018
    August 2018
    July 2018
    June 2018
    May 2018
    April 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    November 2017
    October 2017
    September 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    June 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    December 2016
    December 2015
    October 2015
    August 2015
    July 2015
    June 2015
    May 2015
    April 2015
    March 2015
    February 2015
    January 2015
    December 2014
    October 2014
    September 2014
    July 2014
    May 2014
    April 2014
    March 2014
    February 2014
    January 2014
    December 2013
    November 2013
    October 2013
    September 2013
    August 2013
    June 2013
    December 2012

    Categories

    All
    All
    Chosen Family
    Chosen Family
    Christmas
    Chronicle Of Nutty & Whiskers
    CJ
    Easter
    Family
    Friends
    Gay
    Life Of The Retired
    Living Positively
    Memories
    Progressive Notes
    Sam And Jake
    Stories From Wylddane
    Thanksgiving Is A Daily Thing
    Transitions
    Winter
    Writings Of Gail Mahr

    RSS Feed

© 2025 Wylddane Productions, LLC